As my very first blog post, I’m thrilled to share insights that reflect both my professional expertise and my personal experience as a mum of seven. The holiday season is a magical time, but if you’re about to welcome a baby or have just given birth, it can also feel overwhelming. As a mum of seven and a parent and baby wellness practitioner, I understand the unique pressures this season can bring when you’re preparing for or adjusting to life with a baby. Let me reassure you—there’s no right or wrong way to navigate this time. What matters most is finding what works for you and your growing family.
Set Clear Boundaries That Work for You
Boundaries are your best friend during this time. They allow you to focus on what truly matters: your baby’s needs, your well-being, and those moments of connection that make this season special. Here’s how to approach it:
Tune Into Your Energy Levels: Are you craving quiet nights or feeling up for gatherings? Listen to your instincts, and don’t feel pressured to do it all. It’s okay to say no to events that feel too demanding.
Prioritize Your Needs: Think about what would bring you the most peace and joy this season. Maybe it’s a quiet day at home with your partner and baby, or perhaps a short visit to a family celebration. Whatever it is, honor it.
Communicate Early and Clearly: Once you’ve decided, let loved ones know. Try saying something like, “This year, we’re focusing on rest and bonding as a family. We’d love to celebrate with you in a way that feels manageable for us.” Most people will appreciate your honesty and support your choice.
The Importance of Honoring Your Feelings
Whether you’re someone who thrives on festive gatherings or you’d prefer a cozy, intimate holiday, both feelings are valid. It’s normal for your preferences to change depending on how you’re feeling physically and emotionally.
Give yourself permission to adapt. If you’ve committed to a family dinner but wake up feeling exhausted, it’s okay to change your mind. The people who care about you will understand.
Focus on Connection, Not Perfection
During my years as a mum, I’ve learned that the holidays aren’t about picture-perfect moments—they’re about meaningful ones. Whether it’s holding your newborn under the twinkling lights, sharing a quiet meal with your partner, or feeling your baby kick as you sip a warm drink, these moments matter far more than trying to meet others’ expectations.
Tips for a Calm Holiday Season
Plan Ahead: Discuss your holiday intentions with your partner and loved ones in advance to reduce last-minute stress.
Simplify Traditions: Focus on the traditions that bring you joy, and let go of the ones that feel like a chore this year.
Create Moments of Calm: Whether it’s a 5-minute breathing exercise or a quiet walk with your baby, prioritize small acts of self-care to stay grounded.
Remember, This Season Is Yours
The holidays are often portrayed as a time of togetherness and celebration, but they should also be a time of care and connection. If that means stepping back from the usual hustle and bustle, that’s okay. And if it means embracing the festive chaos in your own way, that’s okay too.
Whatever you choose, know that your well-being and your family’s happiness are what truly matter. Thank you for joining me on this journey—it means so much to me. Here’s to a holiday season filled with love, peace, and the excitement of new beginnings. You’ve got this!
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